Relationship Sans Trust

First my disclosure about the incident I am going to tell here - My intention is not to tell a story and not to laugh at what happened. I post it here so that I could express the importance of trust in a relationship.

Last week my neighbor's daughter eloped with a boy living just few houses apart taking all the jewelery and some good cash along. The interesting thing is both families were good friends and had the girl told about her relation to her family, they would be just happy to marry the man of her choice. In fact, the boy's family was very happy on the "decision" and were rejoiced. The girl's father was not and consumed poison on hearing the news, later he recovered and next day - yes, the very next day shifted to some unknown place ! Before leaving he told all of us one thing - you did not stand with me. His lament was why the girl chose to elope? when it could have been a happy story.

Well, do not think I am narrating some story here. This is a true and fresh incident. What I want is to demonstrate few things for the purpose of thinking for all my readers.

When both families were friends and there would be no opposition to their marriage, why they chose to do this? One possibility is the girl "knew" something that we neighbors don't know - perhaps her father did not like the boy despite being family friends. OR, the boy would have thought for some reasons her father will oppose it. The third possibility is the boy would have thought he wouldn't get a good gift from her father if they married with their consent.

Whatever be the reason, one thing is certain - the weakness of their relations. Despite their very good family relations the trust was simply not there. The girl did not trust her parents, the two families did not trust each other, the boy did not trust the girl's parents. I am myself eye witness to the "warm relations" of the two families and could not believe eyes and ears on seeing and hearing the incidents. It made me focus on relations again - trust is the basis of a relationship and if it is lacking then even the biggest empire of relationship can not stand and will collapse one day. This happened in my neighborhood and can happen anywhere where there is relationship without trust.

Relationship is Important

When a friend calls and we see the number flashing on our phones we have a different gesture on our faces - depending on who is the friend, what is our mood and how good our relations are with the friend (caller). Imagine you are thinking about the latest assignment you have from your work and a million calculations and computations are going through your mind, and, suddenly a good friend calls, even before you pick it up, you forget the assignment and for few moments all the stress is gone ! It may be for a few moments but it refreshes you - the power of relationship works here in the positive way.

The emphasis of the above imagined situation is on the ability of a good relationship doing something that even costliest drugs and therapies are unable to do. A good relationship is a huge positive for not only an individual but for the society as a whole.

Essence of Relationship - Part 2

The issue of my last post was to tell a thing or two about how as human beings we have a far bigger and vital importance of relationship in our lives than other living beings. A person's relationship with others is a deciding factor to his/her success in life. One's relations with their parents, family, friends are important for the quality and amount of happiness one can possess in the life.

In my posts I will throw light on the various aspects of relationship, problems in relations and simple and effective solutions. I hope my readers will immensely benefit from my work and share their experiences with others in order to achieve the larger goal of a "Happy World" (सर्वे भवन्तु सुखिनः)

The Essence of Relationship

Homo Sapiens. This is what biologists call us, the animal that evolved from Homo Erectus (not all agree though), the animal who could walk upright. When we talk about an animal of Homo Sapiens type, we say Human Beings. Yes, we are human beings - an animal that differs from animals. When someone utters words like these many get angry and annoyed - they just don't want to be called animals, whatever reason or context may be. They think we are not "animals" we are "humans" and a superior race !

Well, my post is not to debate what some or others think or dislike. Whether you think we are a superior species or you think we are superior "animals" the point is same for me - We are vey different than other species all grouped together. Yes, we think and have intelligence and communicate and so on... We relate. We relate with each other, with others, with things and what you say. This is one trait we have as well developed as communication/language, bipedalism, thoughts and other things that make us a superior species.

Relationship is not limited to our race, in fact, any living thing is in some or other relationship with its own species or its surroundings, but its certainly a well evolved, utilized and powerfull trait which is vital for our existence as human beings. The evolutionary bilogists tell us that its the genes (genetic elements) of a species that keep on evolving with time but the difference between us and other species is we have also developed "memes" (memory elements) and these memes are also evolving - that's why we are developing constantly despite the limitations of genetical evolution. Our memes have taken us to what we call today's modern and civilized society as a whole.